Looking back is not my thing! I mostly follow a policy of “Mudmud ke NA dekh…” unless of course I’m reversing my car. 🙂
And why is that you may ask.
Simply because I’m useless at matching events and people however important they may have been with the correct dates in the past.
This is probably why History and I were never the best of pals in school days. The million dollar question in History question papers ” In which year did Akbar, Aurangzeb or the rest of the gang do whatever they did?” is always a mystery to me.
I am forever in awe of people who come up and tell me – ‘remember we met so&so on the beach in the summer of 85?’ or ‘remember you tripped and fell on your face in July ’96?’ Yeah! Like I want to remember the latter!
I would no doubt be a prime suspect in a police interrogation where they ask questions like “Where were you on 27th Dec 2014 when so&so thing happened?” I’ll scratch my head, look thoughtful, shuffle my feet and in the process look guilty as hell!
So, with this shady background I have bravely signed up for the Decade BlogHop challenge 2020, where participants reflect on the decade that went by and how it impacted them.
During the last decade I do vaguely remember some major events worth mentioning. Let’s see …… it was the decade of Modi in India, Trump in the US, Virat/Anoushka in Tuscany and Deepika/Ranveer in Lake Como….
However, as major as these events might have been for the world at large, they hardly impacted me on a personal level.
I am going to look back on the one major event that took place in my household.
In the beginning of the last decade my twin sons flew the nest. Together!
Need I say more? But I will. 🙂
The boys moved from Abu Dhabi where we live, back to India for their Higher secondary studies.
And when they left they took with them their playstation, their beloved football and all their other stuff, leaving behind the spick and span house I’d always dreamed of – their bedroom with the neatly folded blankets, the living room with nothing on the floor waiting to trip me up, a kitchen sink without the messy half-finished lunch boxes to wash out!
The last decade saw both of them through their Professional College education, get themselves jobs and move out of hostels to rented apartments in 2 different cities in India.
Through the last 10 years, with each vacation when they came home, we could sense the gradual change in them. They left home as gangly, awkward 14 year old boys to emerge as independent, confident, articulate young men.
Before, it was a case of me talking to them, telling them what, when, how and why to do things. Now it is a pleasure to talk with them, to have real conversations – sometimes just discussions and arguments, other times laced with wit and sarcasm.
Before it was me who comforted, counselled and cared for them. Today they are my go-to guys if I want any advice, suggestions, opinions or simply someone to talk to.
They have their methods.
While one is tactful and couches his words gracefully, the other is candid and tells it as it is!
While one patiently guides me and takes me step-by-step through any technical issues I may have, the other will message a brief “I’ll take a look” followed 5 minutes later with another terse one, “I’ts done.”
It’s amazing how the dynamics of our relationship has evolved in these 10 years.
We’re friends when we want to simply chill out and catch a movie together.
We’re a mutually respectful support system when we want candid reviews or criticism of one another.
And when they creep up and lay their heads on my lap, we’re back to the basics – simply 2 sons and a mother with an overflowing heart!
As I ‘look back on the decade that was’ with all its highs and lows, it is justifiably with a sense of pride, fulfillment and the thought that ‘I got it right!’
“This post is a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organised by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The Event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The Box, Wedding Clap, The Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee”