Radhika's Diaries

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Looking back is not my thing! I mostly follow a policy of “Mudmud ke NA dekh…” unless of course I’m reversing my car. 🙂

And why is that you may ask.

Simply because I’m useless at matching events and people however important they may have been with the correct dates in the past. :/

This is probably why History and I were never the best of pals in school days. The million dollar question in History question papers ” In which year did Akbar, Aurangzeb or the rest of the gang do whatever they did?” is always a mystery to me.

I am forever in awe of people who come up and tell me – ‘remember we met so&so on the beach in the summer of 85?’ or ‘remember you tripped and fell on your face in July ’96?’ Yeah! Like I want to remember the latter!

I would no doubt be a prime suspect in a police interrogation where they ask questions like “Where were you on 27th Dec 2014 when so&so thing happened?” I’ll scratch my head, look thoughtful, shuffle my feet and in the process look guilty as hell!

So, with this shady background I have bravely signed up for the Decade BlogHop challenge 2020, where participants reflect on the decade that went by and how it impacted them.

During the last decade I do vaguely remember some major events worth mentioning. Let’s see …… it was the decade of Modi in India, Trump in the US, Virat/Anoushka in Tuscany and Deepika/Ranveer in Lake Como….

However, as major as these events might have been for the world at large, they hardly impacted me on a personal level.

I am going to look back on the one major event that took place in my household.

In the beginning of the last decade my twin sons flew the nest. Together!

Need I say more? But I will. 🙂

The boys moved from Abu Dhabi where we live, back to India for their Higher secondary studies.

And when they left they took with them their playstation, their beloved football and all their other stuff, leaving behind the spick and span house I’d always dreamed of – their bedroom with the neatly folded blankets, the living room with nothing on the floor waiting to trip me up, a kitchen sink without the messy half-finished lunch boxes to wash out!

The last decade saw both of them through their Professional College education, get themselves jobs and move out of hostels to rented apartments in 2 different cities in India.

Through the last 10 years, with each vacation when they came home, we could sense the gradual change in them. They left home as gangly, awkward 14 year old boys to emerge as independent, confident, articulate young men.

Before, it was a case of me talking to them, telling them what, when, how and why to do things. Now it is a pleasure to talk with them, to have real conversations – sometimes just discussions and arguments, other times laced with wit and sarcasm.

Before it was me who comforted, counselled and cared for them. Today they are my go-to guys if I want any advice, suggestions, opinions or simply someone to talk to.

They have their methods.

While one is tactful and couches his words gracefully, the other is candid and tells it as it is!

While one patiently guides me and takes me step-by-step through any technical issues I may have, the other will message a brief “I’ll take a look” followed 5 minutes later with another terse one, “I’ts done.”

It’s amazing how the dynamics of our relationship has evolved in these 10 years.

We’re friends when we want to simply chill out and catch a movie together.

We’re a mutually respectful support system when we want candid reviews or criticism of one another.

And when they creep up and lay their heads on my lap, we’re back to the basics – simply 2 sons and a mother with an overflowing heart!

As I ‘look back on the decade that was’ with all its highs and lows, it is justifiably with a sense of pride, fulfillment and the thought that ‘I got it right!’ 

🙂

“This post is a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organised by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The Event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The BoxWedding ClapThe Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee”

 

123 thoughts on “Looking back on the decade that was!

  1. Mayuri6 says:

    Such a beautiful post, Radhika. You’ve shared such a precious slice of your life with us. Kudos at how you seem to be handling your children being away. It must not be easy but what is heartening is that you aren’t making it tough for them.

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    1. Thank you Mayuri. Very astute of you to notice that I must say!
      When we send children far from us, we shouldn’t make them feel guilty for wanting to lead an independent life. Right? 😊

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  2. Lavanya says:

    Encouraging independence in children is such a lovely ideal. These days overbearing parents are the norm.

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    1. True Lavanya. Let your children free and don’t make them feel guilty for enjoying their freedom!

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  3. Jyoti Arora says:

    Loved every piece of the amazing post. Mom’s are indeed the strongest !! Their loved cannot be defined they can go to any level to let their child be the best !! Beautifully written!

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    1. Thank you Jyoti 😊😊

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  4. Varsh says:

    Radhika! This is exactly how I see myself with my son say 5 years from now. He’s 11, teaches me stuff that’s new to me and at night he waits for me to plant a good night kiss on his cheek. You miss that dirty house and lecturing them around? I think I will. From one Mom to another, hugs!

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    1. Thank you. A big Hug right back to you Varsh! 🤗

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  5. Neha Sharma says:

    I loved your writing style, especially how you used humour in your post. You have got a reader! And then I went Aww, this is such a heartfelt post, being a mother I could feel each and every word and was almost imagining the future when my son would be ready to leave the nest. Loved reading it! Wish you all the luck for the coming years.

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    1. Thank you Neha. Wish you all the very best too. Enjoy your days with your son!
      And a warm welcome to my newest reader!! 😊😊

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  6. Maya Bhat says:

    It was a pleasure reading your post. The beginning was really funny. It must be surprising to see how twins end up with entirely opposite nature. Wishing you happy years ahead

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    1. Thats true Maya. They are so unlike each other contrary to our Bollywood notion of twins!! 😄
      Thanks for the lovely comments and wishes.

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  7. This is now our kids become our mentors, guides who teach us how to get adjust with fast changing world, everyday changing technology and norms of living life of present generation. It was great reading about you 🙂

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    1. Thank you Shipra! 😊👍

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  8. Hilarious intro. I loved the suspect part description and the way you’ve created a bond with your sons and maintained it so. Kudos

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    1. Thanks Zenobia! 😊
      That’s a lovely name you have ! 😊😊

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  9. Rashi Roy says:

    Such a beautiful post Radhika and its so nice to see how wonderfully you are handling this phase of life. You must be a proud mom today to see your twins excell in their lives. My best wishes for them. Happy that you decided to be a part of this blog hop 🙂

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    1. Wow! Rashi……. what beautiful comments!! I’m so happy you liked this post of a fond mommy’s journey through a decade of her sons’ life!!
      Thank you so much for your read, for the lovely comments and the best wishes.
      I’m delighted to have participated in this bloghop! 😊😊

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